The percentage of virgin men could be more than you might think. According to data from some surveys, the number of men who have not ever been with a woman can range anywhere from 20% to 45%. There have been many different surveys with wildly different results.

It’s probable that data in surveys is skewed by the fact that there is a cultural stigma around being a virgin, so there’s a likelihood that survey participants may not all tell the truth. If a percentage of virgins lie or bend the truth to conceal their virginity, it would skew the results. Some virgins may have even had some modest level of sexual activity other than vaginal intercourse, and as a result, they may no longer consider themselves as virgins, which would influence the data.

Research suggests that the actual percentage of virgins in the adult population aged 18-25 years-old in the U.S. is below 15%.  This means that there are higher percentages of virgins in the older generations aged 26+.

What is a virgin?

A virgin is a person who has not had sex. There are many types of virgins; boys, girls, married people, single people and much more.

Why are so many men virgins?

There are many reasons why men might be virgins.

Some are religious and believe that sex before marriage is a sin.

Others may have trouble with self-confidence as many people who stay virgins do not think they are attractive enough for sex, or that they are too shy about interacting with the opposite sex because they believe they lack the skills to seduce and bond emotionally with females. Other men may not have had the right opportunity to have sex, whether it be because they simply have not had enough encounters with potential mates that they find attractive, or because they are not deemed to have attractive qualities by most of the opposite sex, thus limiting their pool of viable options.

It’s also possible that social media and porn have played a role in the increase in male virgins.

Platforms like Instagram bombard people of both sexes with images of very beautiful and sexually attractive people. This may be creating a higher expectation of physical beauty between sexes. This expectation may be somewhat unrealistic, resulting in males remaining single while they hold out for a female who meets their expectations. Compounding this further, there has been speculation that younger generations have suffered from a deterioration in social skills needed to interacting with the opposite sex, due to a reduction in human interactions caused by social media usage. 

What do women think about virgin men?

There are conflicting studies of the subject with opposite conclusions.
One study found that virgin men are not considered attractive to women. They also found that men who were “completely virgins” had a higher risk of being unfavourably judged by a woman than a man who had committed to having sex with one woman but still hadn’t had sex with her.
The study found that the more sexual experience men have, the lower their chances are of being judged negatively.
Another study found that women often find male virginity attractive and want to seduce a virgin for the first time. Virgin men are believed to carry with them a sense of innocence, purity, and an untarnished ability to love.
The reality may be somewhere in the middle and a key deciding factor could be to do with the reason why the man is a virgin. For example, if a man is a virgin by choice women may find this more attractive and may consider it an exciting challenge to try and seduce him. Whereas if a man is deemed to be a virgin because he is largely undesirable to most women, then his virginity may not have the same alure.

What are men who are virgins not by choice called?

Someone who is a virgin not by choice could be called an Incel. Incel is an abbreviation for ‘involuntary celibate’.

“Celibate” refers to someone who is deliberately abstaining from sex, while incel is someone who wants sex but is simply not getting any.

It is possible for an incel to not be a virgin. It is possible to become an incel after having sex.

Why are more men virgins than women?

There are more men virgins than women because of cultural factors which have been influenced by technological developments such as birth control and socio-political factors related to feminism.

Birth control made it possible for women to become promiscuous and feminism propagated the idea that women should behave like men. This resulted in women being comfortable with sleeping around.  But what didn’t change was the cultural norm where men pursue women. This resulted in women receiving lots of propositions from different men that they could say yes to with little limitation. As a result, women naturally choose the most desirable men. This means that the most desirable males have lots of different  women sexual partners and those sexual partners will generally be highly desirable women. The women, no longer restricted by the threat of pregnancy out of wedlock will knowingly or unknowingly share the most desirable men between them. Since a small percentage of males engage most of the most desirable women, the selection of highly desirable women that are available for other men is very limited, but the demand is higher than ever because of the increased cultural focus on physical beauty.

What is the average age men lose their virginity?

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the average age Americans (male and female) lose their virginity is 17.

Also according to the CDC, Between the ages of 20 to 24, 12.3 % of females and 14.3 % of males are still virgins.